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Was What My Mum Did Child Abuse?

Postby camdene » Mon Oct 09, 2017 10:47 am

My mum punched me in the face growing up, pulled my hair, scratched my arms and face until they where bleeding, punched my nose until I had 15 minute nose bleeds, pulled my hair, kicked me and slapped my face. I would have to go school with bloody scars/scabs on my face a few times. My nose would hurt so much from the 15 minute nose bleeds I couldn't touch it for a week.

She would emotional abuse me I think too, from the age of 3, she would shout and swear at me, saying I was a sh*t child and that she would ditch me to my dad (they divorced and she ran off with me and tried to stop him seeing me because I think she was jealous)

Soon after her hair pulling/punching/punching my nose and giving me 15 minute nose bleeds, I got mild epilepsy (I've only had 4 seizures) but the fits are very severe, I will drop to the floor and lose conciousnes, and stop breathing for a while. Apparently, blows to the head can cause epilepsy. I got epilepsy around the time she had been doing this stuff.

She tries to stop me taking epilepsy medication, even though I was going on holiday to the beach, had I of been swimming in the sea and had a fit alone I could have died.

She hid my post for 3 months from the hospital about getting a apointment about medication, even though I am 18 years old.

She hid my post about getting the cervical cancer jab.

She would offer me alcohol from the age of 11, offering me 2 glasses of wine from this age.

When I was 17, I got very drunk one night with a friend and was sick at home. The whole month following this, she would buy alcohol every other day, and try to offer me it. She would leave glasses of it outside my door. She said she was trying to 'teach' me how to drink properly. I said I don't believe her, then she said

'SHUT THE F*CK UP! YOU KNOW WHAT THE TRUTH IS, I WANT TO SEE YOU BECOME AN ALCOHOLIC, SO I CAN LAUGH AT YOU!!! YOU'RE AN IDIOT AND I WANT TO SEE YOU RUIN YOUR LIFE!! HAHAHAHAHA! YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT I'M PLANNING FOR YOU, I'M PLANNING FOR YOU TO DIEEE!'

she later denied this.

Also, she knows lack of sleep triggered my seizures, so at night, she will stand outside my door, shouting, 'ARE YOU SLEEPING??!!!! ARE YOU SLEEPING!??!!? HAHAHAHA'

she has also said she wishes she aborted me and that I was never born, and that I ruined her life, and that I made her fat (She is very fat, because she is verry greedy, i'm slim and she hates that).

she sent emails to my college teachers begging them to kick me out of college, and that i don't 'deserve' an education. They said they are ignoring her emails because she seems mentally unstable.

When I was 14, she met this pervy indian man, and first night they met she brought him to our house and went off to the bedroom to have to sex with him. Then, the next morning she left me alone with him when she went to work. She would leave me alone with him 4 days a week, even though I begged her not to as I don't know him, I even cried on my knees for her to stop letting him live with us, as he was creepy, didn't pay rent, and left his clothes everywhere and wouldn't stop telling me how beautiful I was, whilst staring at my chest. He was cheating with 5 other women, but she choose him over me.

She has also brought other men home, and she wouldn't even know them, but would go of to the bedroom to have sex with them whilst I was still in the house, and then start shouting at me when I asked whats going on.

A week after my 18th birthday, I found half my wardrobe in the bin. She said she threw it because it was old. It was all new stuff. She throws my stuff CONSTANTLY, and in secret, she NEVER ASKS me if I'm okay with it EVER.

When I ask her about all this (there's lots of other stuff too) she says I am extremely paranoid, and that I should stop living in the past, that I am over-sensitive, and she says she thinks I am mentally ill. I have two university offers, lots of friends, she has neither, but she says I'm ill?

She tells me I'm a loser, that I'm pathatic, and that I am apparently 'mentally disturbed' and 'bipolar' everyone else says that is complete rubbish, and that I am 100% sane, she is the ill one.

She has tried to turn my family against me, and b*tches about me constantly to everyone, saying I am out of control, when I am REALLY NOT AT ALL. She lied that I had taken speed when I have NEVER taken drugs in my whole life.

Is what she did/does child abuse?? Could I have been put in care had I of informed someone when I was little? She started hitting/slapping/punching/scratching me from age of 3, when I was completely innocent, and she would do it for stupid reasons.

But around other people, she puts on this extremely false act, where she pretends she is a very nice shy person. So people assume I have alot of issues, because that's what she says.
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Postby Blaine » Mon Oct 09, 2017 10:48 am

Hello,

Yes if that's all true, not exagerrated then yes it definitely was and i think you know that. I'm 13 years old, and if my friend or myself was going through that, i'd make sure something was done about it. The worst that's happened to me was being pushed into a table and hit, and that's wrong. Anyhow, mentally and physically abusing a child is cruel. And a child is anyone under 18, so yeah, you'd either be taken out of care, or given a social worker. I hope things are okay for you both now? If ya want to chat about this, email me blackveilbrides1608@hotmail.com

Good luck!
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Postby pyrs63 » Mon Oct 09, 2017 10:49 am

Yes.
Now that you are of age you should leave her house and never look back.
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Postby Sasson » Mon Oct 09, 2017 10:50 am

That's the worst child abuse I ever heard of in my life! Never speak to that horrid b*tch again! I'm so sorry hon!
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Postby Drem » Mon Oct 09, 2017 10:51 am

1. Report what she did.

2. If you haven't already, move far far away.

3. If you have children of your own don't let them anywhere near her.

4. Remember even though you want through all of this, to go to college, stay in college, get a good education, career, and have a nice family so that you can make up for your horrible childhood and so that you won't fall anything close to in her footsteps.
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Postby MacAdam » Mon Oct 09, 2017 10:54 am

from what you have said here, your mother seems to have a severe case of some sort of personality disorder and is mentally unstable, should you not only report what she did to you, you should also speak to your GP about hat he thinks about her mental state. what she did/does is 100% child abuse and you would have been put in care if you would have spoken up earlier as a child, however as you are now 18 although it is too late to be put into care it is the beggining or a new life for you, as you can now legally move out and own your own home,this is what i think you should do, however if you are not in a good enough economical state you should speak to a friend and see if you could possibley stay there for a little while whilst you figure out what to do and where to go/live.
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Postby Caiseal » Mon Oct 09, 2017 11:00 am

Jeesus Christ your mother is a vile monster - YES this is horrible horrible child abuse.
You need to report her.
Where is your father - , is he decent? Can you live with him? Your mother needs to be reported to the authorities, this is horrific.
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Postby Gregor » Mon Oct 09, 2017 11:03 am

Well first i want to say im so sorry and godbless you!! There is nothing wrong with you but there is definately something wrong with her!!! You should call the cops the next time because stuff like that is really serious! You should get help and get away from her fast because she is nothing but trouble!! But if you love her you will help her and if she loves you back then she will consider receiving the help (from a doctor). Im so sorry that you are in this situation!!!
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Postby Rockwell » Mon Oct 09, 2017 11:25 am

Angel, it seems some of the people answering have used this question to get on their "high horse" about the presumed sex of the offender rather than the hideousness of the subject. I too find your discoveries very disturbing, and while I accept that some partners may be in denial about what their other half has been up too, as a mum, I would have thought that the maternal/paternal instinct would have overtaken this. Afterall, most parents would do anything to protect their child. I believe that if it can be proven that the partner/spouse knew what was going on and did nothing, they should be charged with either the same offence or aiding & abetting. You must be a strong individual to work with these scenarios every day, I wish you good luck for the future.
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Postby Derick » Mon Oct 09, 2017 11:33 am

You are just like me only I'm 11. I've been abused since I baby. My mom and dad hit me EVERYONE hits me and they don't even care.
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