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My Father Died Around 3 Months Ago...?

Postby Aldwine » Fri Sep 01, 2017 1:48 am

of pancreatic cancer,5 weeks after diagnosis,before that we would meet in the pub once a week,we were always round each others homes,at least a couple of times a week and were more like mates really.

I'm still struggling to accept he's gone,I started a new job two days after his funeral which is very busy so that keeps my mind preoccupied to some degree.

This may be a 'how long is a piece of string' type question but are there stages of remorse and does anybody know them,which order they're in and how long each of them last?

thanks in advance.
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Postby Delbert » Fri Sep 01, 2017 1:51 am

All depends on how strong your relationship was? how strong a person you are? How you deal with trauma? But from experience, the ache dulls but never leaves. Time is a healer.
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Postby Hanley » Fri Sep 01, 2017 1:56 am

Traditionally the grief process goes through 5 stages...Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. It is important to know that the "stages" are ways of understanding the grief process, but not ever body experiences them the same. There is overlap, and people can go back and forth in the model even as they are recovering. There is also unfortunately no time limit either. However, most people do seem to do significantly better after the one year anniversary, for a variety of reasons.

You will have good days and bad days. Keeping busy helps, but sometimes it can keep one from really healing. Everyone is different.

I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Postby Tzion » Fri Sep 01, 2017 2:00 am

i know what you're going through. mine died when i was 9. thing is, you don't know when it's gonna stop. stay with people you care about and you're always gonna be sad, but the worst thing you can do is ***** about it. just accept it as a tragic event, and don't put your life on hold because of this one moment
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Postby carthage » Fri Sep 01, 2017 2:09 am

My mother told me when she lost her father the second year was the worst for her.

Some stages are sadness, shock, disbelief, anger, acceptance. I don't know the order or length.


Tears are healing, so cry and cry it truly helps.


I am sorry for your loss. I am sending you thought for hope, grace and peace.
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Postby torence » Fri Sep 01, 2017 2:15 am

I lost my father - who was my best friend - and my 18 y/o son three months later.

It took a year to go through the stages of grief.
2006 to 2007

I'm not completely over it, but I no longer stress over the losses.
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