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Just How Can I Help My Stepdad Who's Dying From Liver Diease?

Postby jackson » Sat Dec 28, 2013 6:39 am

My stepdad is 67 he's been consuming considering that age 15. He's ultimately stage of liver diease. He also provides physique amonia. This genuinely is to be anticipated. The drs told him the one factor that will save him is just a liver transplant.Now listed here is where in actuality the predicament gets tough. I've had no-speak to with my parents for a handful of decades. As a young kid I had been physically abused. Their state got my from the house at age 15. I had been emacipated. For about ten years I had been in a situation of post-traumatic anxiousness. I ultimately got more than something could move ahead. Anyhow, my father apologized for something. My mother, is just a total sociopath. She doesnt like that which you say, she calls law enforcement(not kidding), she areas casey anthony to disgrace. There is where I are accessible in, I think my father nees help, hes in a healthcare facility nowadays, my buddy is incapable and so is my mother. do I bother? Considering about the scenario? With my mother she'll need help additionally, do she helped by me too?
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Postby napier36 » Tue Dec 31, 2013 4:21 pm

You have seasoned so significantly. I will just let you know to comprehensive what is in your heart. You clearly have a massive center and it seems forgivng. Your stpdad requirements somebody is known by me and you're alone capabable. It seems fascinating. You have had to overcome so much in the extremely men and women who want you nowadays. I can not let you know how to proceed. It you really feel they can be forgiven by you, then give it a try. Your mom seem like she needs a huge amount of aid, but have you been  ready to supply her that support. You request, "do I help her aswell". and that the hard response to provide. Oh program she desires assistance. But i'm-not confident you happen to be the principal 1 she wants support from. You can try and convince her to enter a service exactly where she can get support, but that's all, or you will revive these period that pulled you out-of that home once more  and that's not great to you. Pay a visit to your stepdad. Great, do what you may possibly,if you accept his apology, if you obtain a great reaction. I have not been significantly support, Iam sorry. I felt compelled to develop considering that you skilled so considerably and now you be seemingly prepared to return to exactly where so significantly harm was inflicted upon you. It requires an exclusive individual to be that versatile. You have a large heart.   God Bless You and Greatest Of Luck in your final decision. goldengirl 56 weeks previously Please register to supply a supplement. Please confirm your account to offer a supplement. Please register to provide a note. Please confirm your account to provide a message.
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Postby Eanruig » Sat Jan 11, 2014 11:24 am

You are an adult, so presumably you can protect oneself from additional abuse. As a result, if you want to help your step-dad, I suggest you go to the hospital, preferably at a time your mother is not present, and ask him what he needs from you. At the really least, the reality that you visit him and show that you care about him will help him no matter whether he gets the transplant or not. The fact that he apologized to you shows that he does want a partnership with you.As to your mother, you can't support her unless she is prepared to accept support from you. About the only thing you can do would be to pray for her if you are a believer, and possibly inform a social worker at the hospital of your concerns. Sometimes the state can aid elders, also, just as it acts to safeguard minors. Since your step-dad is over age 65 and is ill and presumably disabled, he falls under the Adult Protective Service guidelines, so he may be eligible for nursing care, counseling, home support, and protection from your mother if she must be abusive to him as she was to you.Good luck. You are in a tough predicament.
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Postby berkeley » Thu Jan 30, 2014 10:19 pm

it sounds like you have a big heart. i am so glad that you moved on. you can't give him his life back, but you can make the rest of his life more pleasant.  it sounds like you forgave him.  if not, do so.  just be there with him in the hospital.  be kind, caring and loving.  talk to him, buy him some flowers and just spend as much time as you can with him.  that is all that you can do, but it is a whole lot.  give him what help you can and what he needs.  ask him.  your mom sounds mentally ill.  if she accepts help without bringing you down, then give it a try.  you have your life to think about.  on the other hand, you don't want to live with any regrets.  trust me, that is not very pleasant.  good luck to you. horrorfan 56 months ago Please sign in to give a compliment. Please verify your account to give a compliment. Please sign in to send a message. Please verify your account to send a message.
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Postby quinton » Tue Feb 04, 2014 8:50 pm

I can only tell you to do what's in your heart. You obviously have a big heart and it seems forgivng. I know your stpdad needs someone and you are the only one capabable. It seems ironic. You've had to overcome so much from the very people who need you now. I can't tell you what to do. It you feel you can forgive them, then give it a try. Your mother sound like she needs a lot of help, but are you  willing to give her that help. You ask, "do I help her as well". and that a difficult answer to give. Oh course she needs help. But I'm not sure you are the one she needs help from. You can try and persuade her to enter a facility where she can get help, but that's all, or you will relive those time that dragged you out of that home again  and that's not fair to you. Visit your stepdad. If you get a positive response, fine, do what you can,if you accept his apology. I haven't been much help, I'm sorry. I felt compelled to write because you been through so much and now you seem to be willing to go back to the place where so much harm was inflicted upon you. It takes a special person to be that forgiving. You have a big heart.   God Bless You and Good Luck in your decision.
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Postby yeeshai46 » Sun Feb 16, 2014 5:10 am

I agree with Darwin & truff. You do what you think you should do but protect yourself.
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Postby Tucker » Sun Feb 16, 2014 5:16 pm

feisty_sugar said: 3 I agree with Darwin & truff. You do what you think you should do but protect yourself. 56 months ago
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Postby Remi » Tue Feb 18, 2014 10:14 pm

i am so glad that you moved on. you can't give him his life back, but you can make the rest of his life more pleasant.  it sounds like you forgave him.  if not, do so.  just be there with him in the hospital.  be kind, caring and loving.  talk to him, buy him some flowers and just spend as much time as you can with him.  that is all that you can do, but it is a whole lot.  give him what help you can and what he needs.  ask him.  your mom sounds mentally ill.  if she accepts help without bringing you down, then give it a try.  you have your life to think about.  on the other hand, you don't want to live with any regrets.  trust me, that is not very pleasant.  good luck to you.
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Postby Tiburon » Mon Feb 24, 2014 10:38 pm

Yes, I think Darwin's advice says it very well...you are an adult and the fact that you are capable of and willing to do something for your stepdad shows your strength and compassion. It might help you w/ healing your own past(although you may think that they are already healed) and as Darwin said, just to spend a little time w/ your stepdad. People on the brink of passing have a tendency to change and become more open, but protect yourself from your mother if you think it's necessary. You might bring some comfort to your stepdad ...
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Postby aeneas86 » Mon Mar 10, 2014 2:00 am

darwin? said: 1 You are an adult, so presumably you can protect yourself from further abuse. Thus, if you wish to help your step-dad, I suggest you go to the hospital, preferably at a time your mother is not present, and ask him what he needs from you. At the very least, the fact that you visit him and show that you care about him will help him whether he gets the transplant or not. The fact that he apologized to you shows that he does want a relationship with you.As to your mother, you cannot help her unless she is willing to accept help from you. About the only thing you can do would be to pray for her if you are a believer, and possibly tell a social worker at the hospital of your concerns. Sometimes the state can help elders, too, just as it acts to protect minors. Since your step-dad is over age 65 and is ill and presumably disabled, he falls under the Adult Protective Service guidelines, so he might be eligible for nursing care, counseling, home help, and protection from your mother if she should be abusive to him as she was to you.Good luck. You are in a difficult situation. 56 months ago
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