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I Can't Afford To Keep My Gf Happy?

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I Can't Afford To Keep My Gf Happy?

Postby Hillocke » Sun Oct 08, 2017 7:07 pm

I'm just broke. Making minimum wage, plus overtime. Have no savings.

I pay very little rent tho, and barely spend any money on food for myself.

I basically already spend most of my disposable income on my gf, who for someone who is more broke than I, seems to have expensive tastes. Her last bf was definitely better off financially than I am. She wants me to buy her nice things, take her on a trip or two. And I want to be able to do that for her. She's worth it to me, a thousand times over, but I just don't know if I can do it with my current earnings.

She always sticks by my side, with all my mistakes, blunders and shortcomings.

She is helping me through so much anxieties I have about my body, my self worth, teaching me so much about things I never knew.

She's better than any therapist could ever be.

Changed my world.

But, she's out of a job, and needs help paying her rent. Which I have offered to help her out with, although she feels really bad about it. She wants to be able to pay her own rent, and doesn't want me to have to look after basic necessities. But now I have offered to do so, and what's worse I didn't tell her how much financial strain this will put me under.

So she needs to find a new job, but is not progressing too much.

She's depressed on top of it all. Her mother passed away from cancer two years ago, and she just received the news that her father has a brain disease.

I want to help her out as much I can.

For reasons I don't wanna get into we really can't move in together at this point.

I know this is a lot... any advice or wise words would be comforting, thank you.
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Postby Rodge » Sun Oct 08, 2017 7:08 pm

You could show her love by giving her a hug or you could make something for her like paper tissue flowers, I know it might sound silly but it is kinda cute and i think that would put a smile on her face.

Hope it works
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Postby Nootau » Sun Oct 08, 2017 7:09 pm

I don't think she needs the money to be happy, she may have an expensive taste but most of us girls do, but that doesn't mean we expect our boyfriends to make it happen for us. You two really care for each other, that's all that matters, so just keep it at that. You two are going through a lot, so you need each other more than ever. Even a simple phone call or meaningful text/email can help alot, as well. You don't have to move in right away to help each other out. It sounds to me like you two are doing good, just continue what you're doing, don't stress about treating her like a princess by drowning her in luxury, just continue to care for her and treat her right. That's what every girl truly needs from a boyfriend.
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Postby Gormain » Sun Oct 08, 2017 7:10 pm

First off, you shouldn't buy her trinkets. Spend excess money one her rent since you offered. I think Burger King and Starbucks are hiring. Tell her to check them out! Good luck!
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Postby Connolly » Sun Oct 08, 2017 7:12 pm

All what i can say is she rlly needs to find a job and u need a full time job...try ur best to get promoted....move together once it is possible.....try to hook her up with a job.....eat properly cuz u will need each and every bit of energy u have.....and if she truely loves u...she wont ask for alot of expensive stuff if she knows ur financial state......and be there for her cuz of her father
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Postby Bankroft » Sun Oct 08, 2017 7:26 pm

Dump the gold digging hoe and find someone who likes you for you, and not your paycheck.
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Postby Harlowe » Sun Oct 08, 2017 7:27 pm

Why do not you grant for her to stay with you quickly? shifting in completely isn't a foul theory despite if that's surely not a compelled undertaking. basically clarify to her that the region isn't the final yet you are attempting your ultimate. I basically had the determination of relationship 2 men, one that became a dentist and had a ton of money, a advantageous automobile, spent a gaggle of money as quickly as we went out on dates.. yet wager what, I chosen the different one. Who would not have a automobile, isn't destructive yet would not have as plenty by way of fact the different guy and it is not suitable. once you like somebody, funds should not be interior the image.
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Postby Emmet » Sun Oct 08, 2017 7:29 pm

I think you need to sit her down and talk to her about this. You seem like a sweetheart from what you have written and she is lucky to have you..poor or not. You need to talk about this though, not drown silently..you'll get through this together!
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Postby Derrell » Sun Oct 08, 2017 7:42 pm

I don't know, man. It sounds like she's trying to take you for a ride using sympathy. Don't buy her trinkets and gifts. If you both want to help each other financially, that's one thing but you can't afford to buy her things so don't. Show her affection in other ways instead.
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Postby Garnett » Sun Oct 08, 2017 7:54 pm

I would just be honest with her. Tell her you would give her the world if you could. Tell her everything you wrote on here, and tell her how sorry you are. If she really cares for you she will be fine with that.
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