I have a friend who's boyfriend is dying of stage four lung cancer.
He was diagnosed in August, when they realized it had spread to his other lung as well as spine and pancreas. They gave him 6 months- which would be Feb. At the moment, he's paralyzed, which is devastating for all.
They were and are totally in love- Its sad to see, they're so destroyed. She's aware that he wont be around for much longer- and I think a part of her just wants it to be over. She wants to get married and have children one day, and she's just getting used to the idea that it wont be with him.
At work, we have a very good looking client (hair salon), recently they exchanged email addresses, and she's talking about maybe getting together with him. She has absolutely no intention of pretending nothing else is going on- she'll be honest with him about her situation, and see how he reacts.
She asked me if I thought that this is strange- her asking him out when her boyfriend is at home dying. A part of me thinks YES! It IS weird!, but another part of me understands- that she has two lives at the moment. The first is caregiver and lover to her sick boyfriend- the other is her work life, which helps her escape the pain of reality.
What type of advice should I give her?