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Does masturbating to gay porn mean my boyfriend is gay?

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Does masturbating to gay porn mean my boyfriend is gay?

Postby baeddan » Wed Mar 27, 2013 6:05 am

We have been together for 16 months. He has always been attracted to me and other women of course discretely, but always gets hard on for me and very easily even if I just kiss him. He says he loves my body and women's figures in general, but throughout our relationship I found that he watched a gay porn video and at the time denied he got aroused from it and masturbated to it.

Recently we broke up for a week, for other reasons, and since we got back together told me he chatted with girls after posting an ad on craigslist. He admitted that a guy pretended to be a chick and they talked dirty. The guy revealed himself and my boyfriend still got off to it. Then he said another male contacted him and he dirty talked to him too, but then felt disgusted afterwards. He told me that girls don't dirty talk and he was really horny. Since he told me about this I asked about the porn video from months ago, he told me he did actually jerk off to it but only because he wants to try anal stimulation, he says he doesn't want it from a guy, but that he still wants to be pleasured that way to try it out. I feel betrayed, lied to, and cheated. It's hard to trust if he's being honest or not because he lied to me about not getting off to the porn, and now the chats with gay men are making me very very confused. At first he tried to hide the dirty chats with the two guys because he didn't want to hurt me, but if the one guy was actually pretending to be a girl, wouldn't he have showed me the convo to prove it? If he's bi I just need to know, but he says he's not attracted to men. How can a straight guy get off to gay porn if he's not attracted to it though?
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Postby kellach95 » Wed Mar 27, 2013 6:22 am

No real straight man is going to jack off to gay porn. Ever. There's a difference between identifying as straight with bi tendencies and a actual straight man. Your boyfriend is the former unfortunately and he need to come clean with you about his sexual identity. Whether or not it's acceptable is up to you.

Another issue is getting off on men and transsexuals on craigslists. You need to be weary about that because who's to say he gotten his jollies online when you two were together? If' he's willing to dirty chat with men, the next step is to meet up with these people discreet. Don't fall for the BS that he want to try anal, but ONLY with you. Sit down and have a heart to heart discussion with your man and any sexual repressed feelings on his part. Tell him you won't judge but you are in a relationship and need to know any secrets because your heart is on the line.

@ grant

a heterosexual woman getting off on lez porn has an arrow that isn't exactly going the complete opposite direction either. Thanks to society and part of the male population, it's easier to be labeled as a straight woman as they find it sexy and cute for women to be sexually involved. That's double standard for you.
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Postby reginhard » Wed Mar 27, 2013 6:25 am

Chances are that he's at least a little bit bi. The reason that guys don't want to reveal that fact to ladies is that whether they know it or not, girls are very, very homophobic/unaccepting when it comes to the guys they date. It turns into this whole "what if he likes men more and I'm not good enough?" silliness. On top of that they start worrying about cheating and about their guy hanging out with other men. Generally telling a girl you're bi will just result in a huge pain in the butt.

Another thing, lots of women who are straight masturbate to lesbian porn. I hear lots of excuses as to why (including that it's slower and more romantic). Heck, I know women who really get off to tranny porn. Obviously, they don't picture themselves as a transvestite, but they find that sort of stuff hot.

You can't judge somebody's sexuality based purely off the porn they watch. It's extremely stuff and is completely fantasy. We fantasize about plenty of things we wouldn't act on.
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Postby demothi » Wed Mar 27, 2013 6:33 am

I have no clue how he can get off to that. I don't know if what he's saying is true or not or if he's gay/bi. I personally can't stand to watch it let alone get off to it. Even if I did want some chick to lick my *** I probably wouldn't jack off to gay porn. You don't get anal stimulation from watching gay porn =/ Unless he's shoving something up his *** which he could do while watching a chick ramming a dildo up some guys ***. All you have to do is look and you can find anything so I think there's a good chance that he is in fact gay or bi and is embarrassed about it.
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Postby amaury » Wed Mar 27, 2013 6:41 am

He's bisexual. He may feel ashamed of it and it compels him to lie.

Not that one has anything to do with the other, but I have a female friend who can't get off unless she's watching gay porn. She's been married for 20 years, and has three children. Her husband bought her a subscription to a gay mens magazine for her birthday.
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Postby taji93 » Wed Mar 27, 2013 6:46 am

He's bisexual. He may feel ashamed of it and it compels him to lie.

Not that one has anything to do with the other, but I have a female friend who can't get off unless she's watching gay porn. She's been married for 20 years, and has three children. Her husband bought her a subscription to a gay mens magazine for her birthday.
I think he's pretending to be straight, but really isn't. He might be bi? He might be gay? Nonetheless, he's too curious about anal sex, chatting with guys on Craigslist(deplorable site) and masturbating to gay porn. This man isn't hetero and he's wasted enough of your time, so forget him. Good luck
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Postby baeddan » Wed Mar 27, 2013 6:47 am

He sounds bi to me.
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