I am only 24 years old and I have the breast cancer gene BRCA2. Unfortunately, this gene can cause more than breast cancer. It is associated with an increased risk of ovarian, breast, and melanoma cancer. Ovarian cancer is very difficult to diagnose in its earlier stages and often it is too late once symptoms do occur. This means that my doctor has advised me to have my ovaries removed after I have my children, which will probably be in my thirties. Also, I cannot take Hormone Replacement Therapy because of the BRCA2 gene. Like I said before I am very young and my husband and I have an awesome sex life. He is very patient, caring, and understands about female physiology and biology. I always orgasm when we have sex because I orgasm by clitoral stimulation during intercourse. I'm worried that once my ovaries are removed, which is imminent, that I will never enjoy sex again. In my opinion sex helps me with depression, pain such as headache cramps, and even anxiety. In fact, the part of the brain responsible for anxiety shuts down during orgasm and your pain threshold increases. I think orgasm is a very important part of my health.
I have been reading many hysterectomy blogs and I think it is crazy when I hear woman say that "sex is still good but I don't have orgasms" or "the desire is mostly gone but it feels the same." If you have no desire to have sex why are you having sex? In my opinion if I don't have the desire and you’re doing it anyway do you not feel like you’re being raped? Secondly, if you’re not having an orgasm that means that sex is not feeling good enough to make you orgasm. Anyone who has ever had an orgasm knows that the best part of sex is right before you orgasm. I live in a very conservative town and dread having to discuss this with my very conservative doctor. I will eventually talk to my doctor but I would like to hear from woman who have actually been through this. I find that anecdotal records can be very enlightening.
If you have had your ovaries removed be honest and let me know if you still have orgasms. If you do, how do you have them (clitoral or vaginal). Do you think it takes longer to orgasm? Do they feel the same? Can you still orgasm by manual stimulus of clitoris or does it have to be with help by a vibrator or other aids? Make sure you include if you had Hormone Replacement Therapy because like I said before, I cannot take hormones. Or maybe you have never had an orgasm and the surgery did not have and affect on it.
I know Some studies say that woman report no change in their sex life but this raises many questions for me. Were these woman satisfied with their sex lives before the surgery? Did they have orgasms pre and post surgery? Do orgasms feel the same pre and post surgery? Do they feel sexually aroused as often as they did before the surgery?